Hold your horses, gentlemen. Intimacy is a marathon, not a sprint. And its worth it, I promise!
I’m not the only one to preach about the importance of foreplay and building up to that special moment. Its so easy to let real world responsibilities detract from our pleasure leading us to rush it. Desire should be savored, not gotten through.
Fortunately, I am an expert at the art of the tease with naturally plump lips giving you and I plenty of real estate to explore. When kissing is done right, its one of the best reasons to be alive! Some element of it will come down to pheromones and natural chemistry between partners, but we will stick to what we can control.
Kissing is much like dancing. Now, let me show you some moves.
Prep:
Lets begin with the obvious. Kissing is a sensual experience, emphasis on the "sense". You will be experiencing all five of the senses up close and personal. Your object of desire will be on the receiving end of everything your body is putting out there as well. You want to go in with a good base to welcome them close to you.
Consider what you are eating on a date and how long those scents and flavors might linger. Maybe tonight is not the evening for garlic naan. Its excellent paired with Lamb Saag, but not so much on a man.
Colognes and body sprays can act as an attractor or push people away. I personally enjoy an intentional, curated scent on a man. Men with great style and taste make me feral and scent is a great way to express yourself. I just don't want to drown in your Dior Sauvage so use a light hand.
Oral hygiene should go without saying, but here I am having to say it. If you want to have guests over, you need to set the table, right? I am a huge advocate of the tongue scraper, it will change your life. You will never go back after you realize the vulgarity that resides on your tongue, even with consistent brushing. I also really like Therabreath for a mouthwash. It has a thicker, slightly more oily consistency than traditional mouth wash and doesn't give you that sting the blue stuff is known for.
I love a boy with a well kept beard. Consider how its going to feel rubbing up my delicate, angelic face. You wouldn't want to scratch it up, would you? A lot of brands now offer full beard kits to help you make it soft and nice to the touch. Ladies will definitely notice the difference for the effort you put in. It is possible to go for a full lumberjack look that is still under control. Make sure to keep up on regular trims, you will not loose any of your masculinity by snipping off those crispy ends, I promise.
Execution:
Make sure you are in a comfortable spot that allows for natural movement. There is a reason people make out in the backseat of a car and not the front. An awkward arm positioning can really ruin the mood.
My favorite place is the couch. It has the intimacy of home, but its a little more prudish than going straight to the bed. The whole point of this is to make kissing its own event, not just something you have to get through to get to "the good part". The couch sets you up for squishy comfort in the meantime while making the moment when you finally do transition to the bedroom much more dramatic and seductive.
Ok, but how do I do it? Its not so simple as a quick peck or jamming your tongue down someone's throat. I've noticed a lot of people confuse passion with force and that doesn't feel great. Think of using your lips as a tool to coax the other person's open, slowly and deliberately. Your mouth should begin opening smaller as you warm up and develop a rhythm together (remember I said its like dancing?). You can work your way up to tongue later, take your time exploring the full expanse of your partners lips. I go a little crazy when my bottom lip is lightly bitten and sucked. Its playful and breaks up the movements so it doesn't get too repetitive and predictable. You want to loose yourself in the moment, but not become so mechanical that you dissociate.
The mouth isn't the only surface area available for a peck. I personally love my ear lobes stimulated and my neck nuzzled. These are popular spots, but pay attention to your partner's reaction to each and use it to tease and deny. Not getting what you want when you want it can sometimes be hotter than having it all at once. Use the information they give you both for and against them.
Kissing is about give and take, alternating between leading and following, and ultimately melting yourselves into an ooey-gooey singular pulse. Be intentional, take your time, and -enough overthinking already! lets make out!
